Rephrasing Your Sentences Will Encourage Good Behaviour in Your Children

Good communications skills is a very important parenting tool
One good way to foster a good and healthy relationship with children is to practice effective communication with them. When you communicate effectively with your children, they would more likely be willing to listen to you and do what they are told to do.
Good communication skills would help you build a positive parent – child relationship and would help strengthen the bond that you have with your children. It is the key to building a healthy relationship, self-esteem and mutual respect with children regardless of  their age.
Parenting would be more enjoyable, when a positive parent – child relationship is established.
Rephrase your sentences
One effective way to encourage good behaviour in children is to always say clearly what you want them to do rather than the things you don’t want them to do. Instead of telling them what not to do, teach and show them what they should do. It’s always more powerful and influential to say what you want rather than what you don’t want.

Then avoid saying the words ‘No’ and ‘Don’t’ too often. A study once showed that the average child hears the words ‘No’ or ‘Don’t’ over 148,000 times while growing up, compared with a few thousand ‘Yes’ messages. Although, you may need to use those firm words at times, it is important not to make it a regular habit.

Here are a few examples –

instead of ”Don’t jump on the chair”, Say ”I want you to sit quietly on the chair”

instead of “No running” Say, “Walk, please”

instead of “Shut Up” Say, “Would you keep quiet please”

instead of “Don’t argue with me” Say, “I know you want to say something to me but I need you to listen to me first”

instead of “No shouting” Say, “Talk quietly, please”

Rephrasing your sentences from the negative to the positive will take some time and energy to get used to but it can be done.


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